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People often ask me: "What can I do to boost my happiness?"
I tell them that there are tons of things you can do, but then I can only recall a handful of practices in the moment. So I decided to create this complete guide for how to be happy, according to science. If you use these 23 practices consistently, you are very likely to increase your personal happiness:
1. Find out what to do first.
How are you supposed to build the right happiness skills if you don't know which ones you are struggling with in the first place? This is why it's helpful to take a quiz to explore your happiness strengths and weaknesses

. Get a better understanding of what these skills are all about, and learn how to improve upon your weaknesses and build your "happiness strengths."


2. Give yourself a confidence boost.
Why would you bother increasing your happiness if you didn't think you could be successful at it? You wouldn't. That's why it's so important to build your self-efficacy — to prove to yourself that you can increase your happiness. The best way to do this is by starting with easier skills — skills like gratitude or prioritizing spending time doing fun things

. Get a quick win, and you'll be more confident that you really can change your life.
3. Fuel your progress by learning how to feel better about yourself.
You wouldn't practice math to get better at cooking. And you wouldn't learn another language to lose weight. To be happier, you'll likely make more progress by focusing on the skills that are most closely linked to happiness. In my research, the skill that usually turns out to be most closely linked to happiness is: positive self-views

. Learning how to feel better about yourself — for example, by imagining your best possible self

, noting your positive qualities

, or identifying your strengths

— can go a long way to increasing your happiness.
4. Create balance and overcome burnout.
How are you supposed to have the energy to be happier if you're exhausted and miserable from work? It will be really hard. Building new skills, skills that will help you be happier, will take time and energy. So it's helpful first to create better work-life balance.
5. Build a growth mindset for happiness.
A growth mindset refers to the belief that we can change ourselves. When we build a growth mindset for happiness

, we believe we can change our happiness. This is super important, because if we don't believe we can increase our happiness, we won't even bother to try.
6. Make positive memories.
Every region in our brains can be strengthened through practice. If our brains are really good at remembering negative things that happen, it can be useful to strengthen the regions of the brain responsible for remembering positive things

.

Source: Pixabay
7. Find those silver linings.
Everything we experience can be a bummer if we choose to see it that way. But when you search for the benefits or silver linings in your life

, you may be surprised to discover a lot of good. Keep practicing to increase the positive

and decrease the negative

to cultivate happiness. Also, this skill has been linked to a better ability to cope with stress and be more resilient.
8. Take breaks from social media.
article continues after advertisement

Facebook tends to have a negative effect on our happiness. By choosing to take breaks from Facebook — or changing the way we use social media — we can boost our happiness.
9. Spend smarter for more happiness.
How we choose to spend our money impacts what we can do and how we live in ways that impact how happy we are. When we choose a less fancy house or car — things that don't bring us much happiness — we have more money to spend on adventures or on gifts for friends: things that actually do make us happier.
10. Communicate kindly.
When we are kind to others

, we feel better about ourselves. We can do nice things for others

, be empathetic

, or we can just treat each other with respect, communicating kindly rather than assuming the worst.
11. End your negative patterns of thinking.
Let's face it: Sometimes we are what's making us miserable. We just can't stop thinking about how so-and-so wronged us, or how our life didn't turn out as we hoped. Negative thought processes — like worrying

, ruminating

, self-judgment

, and fearing rejection

— just keep us miserable and unable to move forward. When you find yourself thinking negatively, pause and refocus your thoughts

. In time, your brain will be able to do this more easily on its own.
article continues after advertisement

12. Find clarity.
How are you supposed to move your life forward when you don't even know what you feel or why you feel it? To become happier, try to gain clarity on your emotions

; find out what you're feeling and what caused those feelings

.
13. Live your values.
When you start to explore yourself and your values

, you may discover that you've known all along what would make you happy, but you're just not doing it. To be happier, get clear on your values

, so that you can live your life autonomously

, according to your own principles and values.
14. Pay attention to the good.
Sure, sometimes life is hard. But by paying attention to the good

, you can rise above it and be more resilient. When you find the good, savor the moment

, and bring it with you to maintain happiness even during hard times. Or try thinking about a time in the future when you'll feel better

.

Source: Pixabay
15. Use your imagination to create the life you seek.
Did you know that your brain has a difficult time differentiating between things that happen in your imagination and things that happen in real life? So when you imagine something — even happiness — your brain acts as if it's real. We can use imagination to help create happiness

out of thin air and enjoy our experiences more

.
article continues after advertisement

16. Stay mindful.
Sometimes we want to escape. The world seems dark and scary, but by practicing mindfulness

we experience more fully both the positive and the negative — we are more fully engaged in our lives.
17. Explore what happiness means to you.
We all define happiness in different ways. When you know what happiness means to you

, you'll have an easier time finding it. So explore happiness — what it means, what it looks like

, and what it feels like — to more easily create it.
18. Go after life.
How are you supposed to change your life by doing the same things you've always done? It's pretty tough. Instead, push yourself to overcome fear and approach life

with enthusiasm. Try "doing the opposite"

to see how it feels and to make your brain more flexible.
19. Speak up and be yourself.
When we let people walk all over us, we're unhappy. But when we advocate for our own needs assertively

and express ourselves

, we feel more in control of our lives. Learning how to express yourself

can help you overcome interpersonal challenges, which can make you unhappy.
20. Find your purpose.
We all want to feel like we made some sort of positive impact in this world, but sometimes we are uncertain of the type of impact we want to make. Explore exactly what gives you a sense of purpose

and how you want to pursue this purpose

to give your life a greater sense of meaning.
21. Build meaningful connections.
Did you know we enjoy just about everything more when we do it with others

? This is why one of the best things you can do for your happiness is to build meaningful relationships

and social connections. To strengthen these relationships, practice kindness and gratitude towards the people you care about

.
22. Get off the hedonic treadmill.
The "hedonic treadmill" refers to the tendency for us to return to our original happiness level

over time. To boost your baseline-level happiness

, you can try changing your physiology through nutrition and exercise. To maintain your happiness, you have to get out of your comfort zone

and keep adding variety

to your happiness plan

.
23. Hold yourself accountable.
We are more likely to do the things we say we're going to do if we schedule time in our calendars to do them

. We can also more easily stay on track if we get accountability from others

. So if you really want to be happier, don't let yourself get away with being unhappy.
In sum, you can be happier. It's just a matter of building the right "happiness skills."

If you need help putting this all together, check out my Happiness Program

at berkeleywellbeing.com

.

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The complete guide to boosting happiness in 2018, according to science.
Posted Jan 01, 2018

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Source: Rido/Shutterstock
People often ask me: "What can I do to boost my happiness?"
I tell them that there are tons of things you can do, but then I can only recall a handful of practices in the moment. So I decided to create this complete guide for how to be happy, according to science. If you use these 23 practices consistently, you are very likely to increase your personal happiness:
1. Find out what to do first.
How are you supposed to build the right happiness skills if you don't know which ones you are struggling with in the first place? This is why it's helpful to take a quiz to explore your happiness strengths and weaknesses

. Get a better understanding of what these skills are all about, and learn how to improve upon your weaknesses and build your "happiness strengths."


2. Give yourself a confidence boost.
Why would you bother increasing your happiness if you didn't think you could be successful at it? You wouldn't. That's why it's so important to build your self-efficacy — to prove to yourself that you can increase your happiness. The best way to do this is by starting with easier skills — skills like gratitude or prioritizing spending time doing fun things

. Get a quick win, and you'll be more confident that you really can change your life.
3. Fuel your progress by learning how to feel better about yourself.
You wouldn't practice math to get better at cooking. And you wouldn't learn another language to lose weight. To be happier, you'll likely make more progress by focusing on the skills that are most closely linked to happiness. In my research, the skill that usually turns out to be most closely linked to happiness is: positive self-views

. Learning how to feel better about yourself — for example, by imagining your best possible self

, noting your positive qualities

, or identifying your strengths

— can go a long way to increasing your happiness.
4. Create balance and overcome burnout.
How are you supposed to have the energy to be happier if you're exhausted and miserable from work? It will be really hard. Building new skills, skills that will help you be happier, will take time and energy. So it's helpful first to create better work-life balance.
5. Build a growth mindset for happiness.
A growth mindset refers to the belief that we can change ourselves. When we build a growth mindset for happiness

, we believe we can change our happiness. This is super important, because if we don't believe we can increase our happiness, we won't even bother to try.
6. Make positive memories.
Every region in our brains can be strengthened through practice. If our brains are really good at remembering negative things that happen, it can be useful to strengthen the regions of the brain responsible for remembering positive things

.

Source: Pixabay
7. Find those silver linings.
Everything we experience can be a bummer if we choose to see it that way. But when you search for the benefits or silver linings in your life

, you may be surprised to discover a lot of good. Keep practicing to increase the positive

and decrease the negative

to cultivate happiness. Also, this skill has been linked to a better ability to cope with stress and be more resilient.
8. Take breaks from social media.
article continues after advertisement

Facebook tends to have a negative effect on our happiness. By choosing to take breaks from Facebook — or changing the way we use social media — we can boost our happiness.
9. Spend smarter for more happiness.
How we choose to spend our money impacts what we can do and how we live in ways that impact how happy we are. When we choose a less fancy house or car — things that don't bring us much happiness — we have more money to spend on adventures or on gifts for friends: things that actually do make us happier.
10. Communicate kindly.
When we are kind to others

, we feel better about ourselves. We can do nice things for others

, be empathetic

, or we can just treat each other with respect, communicating kindly rather than assuming the worst.
11. End your negative patterns of thinking.
Let's face it: Sometimes we are what's making us miserable. We just can't stop thinking about how so-and-so wronged us, or how our life didn't turn out as we hoped. Negative thought processes — like worrying

, ruminating

, self-judgment

, and fearing rejection

— just keep us miserable and unable to move forward. When you find yourself thinking negatively, pause and refocus your thoughts

. In time, your brain will be able to do this more easily on its own.
article continues after advertisement

12. Find clarity.
How are you supposed to move your life forward when you don't even know what you feel or why you feel it? To become happier, try to gain clarity on your emotions

; find out what you're feeling and what caused those feelings

.
13. Live your values.
When you start to explore yourself and your values

, you may discover that you've known all along what would make you happy, but you're just not doing it. To be happier, get clear on your values

, so that you can live your life autonomously

, according to your own principles and values.
14. Pay attention to the good.
Sure, sometimes life is hard. But by paying attention to the good

, you can rise above it and be more resilient. When you find the good, savor the moment

, and bring it with you to maintain happiness even during hard times. Or try thinking about a time in the future when you'll feel better

.

Source: Pixabay
15. Use your imagination to create the life you seek.
Did you know that your brain has a difficult time differentiating between things that happen in your imagination and things that happen in real life? So when you imagine something — even happiness — your brain acts as if it's real. We can use imagination to help create happiness

out of thin air and enjoy our experiences more

.
article continues after advertisement

16. Stay mindful.
Sometimes we want to escape. The world seems dark and scary, but by practicing mindfulness

we experience more fully both the positive and the negative — we are more fully engaged in our lives.
17. Explore what happiness means to you.
We all define happiness in different ways. When you know what happiness means to you

, you'll have an easier time finding it. So explore happiness — what it means, what it looks like

, and what it feels like — to more easily create it.
18. Go after life.
How are you supposed to change your life by doing the same things you've always done? It's pretty tough. Instead, push yourself to overcome fear and approach life

with enthusiasm. Try "doing the opposite"

to see how it feels and to make your brain more flexible.
19. Speak up and be yourself.
When we let people walk all over us, we're unhappy. But when we advocate for our own needs assertively

and express ourselves

, we feel more in control of our lives. Learning how to express yourself

can help you overcome interpersonal challenges, which can make you unhappy.
20. Find your purpose.
We all want to feel like we made some sort of positive impact in this world, but sometimes we are uncertain of the type of impact we want to make. Explore exactly what gives you a sense of purpose

and how you want to pursue this purpose

to give your life a greater sense of meaning.
21. Build meaningful connections.
Did you know we enjoy just about everything more when we do it with others

? This is why one of the best things you can do for your happiness is to build meaningful relationships

and social connections. To strengthen these relationships, practice kindness and gratitude towards the people you care about

.
22. Get off the hedonic treadmill.
The "hedonic treadmill" refers to the tendency for us to return to our original happiness level

over time. To boost your baseline-level happiness

, you can try changing your physiology through nutrition and exercise. To maintain your happiness, you have to get out of your comfort zone

and keep adding variety

to your happiness plan

.
23. Hold yourself accountable.
We are more likely to do the things we say we're going to do if we schedule time in our calendars to do them

. We can also more easily stay on track if we get accountability from others

. So if you really want to be happier, don't let yourself get away with being unhappy.
In sum, you can be happier. It's just a matter of building the right "happiness skills."

If you need help putting this all together, check out my Happiness Program

at berkeleywellbeing.com

.

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Online: The Berkeley Well-Being Institute







View Author Profile
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What Is Mindfulness? And How to Be More Mindful
Discover how to be open, aware, present, and mindful.

Feeling Lonely? Discover 18 Ways to Overcome Loneliness
Are you connected but still lonely? Use these strategies to overcome loneliness.

How to Keep Romantic Comedies From Ruining Your Love Life
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Grooming for Domestic Abuse: From Romance to Isolation

The Rise of Fake Sexperts

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7 Essential Psychological Truths About Ghosting

How to Be Happier
Four Ways to Feel Happier
Step Aside From Suffering
A Quick Hit for Depression
23 Ways to Be Happy
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What Are Your Happiness Strengths and Weaknesses?
Want to Feel Happy? The Simple Way to Improve Your Mood
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The Absolute Best Way to Start Your Happiness Journey
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Source: Rido/Shutterstock
People often ask me: "What can I do to boost my happiness?"
I tell them that there are tons of things you can do, but then I can only recall a handful of practices in the moment. So I decided to create this complete guide for how to be happy, according to science. If you use these 23 practices consistently, you are very likely to increase your personal happiness:
1. Find out what to do first.
How are you supposed to build the right happiness skills if you don't know which ones you are struggling with in the first place? This is why it's helpful to take a quiz to explore your happiness strengths and weaknesses

. Get a better understanding of what these skills are all about, and learn how to improve upon your weaknesses and build your "happiness strengths."


2. Give yourself a confidence boost.
Why would you bother increasing your happiness if you didn't think you could be successful at it? You wouldn't. That's why it's so important to build your self-efficacy — to prove to yourself that you can increase your happiness. The best way to do this is by starting with easier skills — skills like gratitude or prioritizing spending time doing fun things

. Get a quick win, and you'll be more confident that you really can change your life.
3. Fuel your progress by learning how to feel better about yourself.
You wouldn't practice math to get better at cooking. And you wouldn't learn another language to lose weight. To be happier, you'll likely make more progress by focusing on the skills that are most closely linked to happiness. In my research, the skill that usually turns out to be most closely linked to happiness is: positive self-views

. Learning how to feel better about yourself — for example, by imagining your best possible self

, noting your positive qualities

, or identifying your strengths

— can go a long way to increasing your happiness.
4. Create balance and overcome burnout.
How are you supposed to have the energy to be happier if you're exhausted and miserable from work? It will be really hard. Building new skills, skills that will help you be happier, will take time and energy. So it's helpful first to create better work-life balance.
5. Build a growth mindset for happiness.
A growth mindset refers to the belief that we can change ourselves. When we build a growth mindset for happiness

, we believe we can change our happiness. This is super important, because if we don't believe we can increase our happiness, we won't even bother to try.
6. Make positive memories.
Every region in our brains can be strengthened through practice. If our brains are really good at remembering negative things that happen, it can be useful to strengthen the regions of the brain responsible for remembering positive things

.

Source: Pixabay
7. Find those silver linings.
Everything we experience can be a bummer if we choose to see it that way. But when you search for the benefits or silver linings in your life

, you may be surprised to discover a lot of good. Keep practicing to increase the positive

and decrease the negative

to cultivate happiness. Also, this skill has been linked to a better ability to cope with stress and be more resilient.
8. Take breaks from social media.
article continues after advertisement

Facebook tends to have a negative effect on our happiness. By choosing to take breaks from Facebook — or changing the way we use social media — we can boost our happiness.
9. Spend smarter for more happiness.
How we choose to spend our money impacts what we can do and how we live in ways that impact how happy we are. When we choose a less fancy house or car — things that don't bring us much happiness — we have more money to spend on adventures or on gifts for friends: things that actually do make us happier.
10. Communicate kindly.
When we are kind to others

, we feel better about ourselves. We can do nice things for others

, be empathetic

, or we can just treat each other with respect, communicating kindly rather than assuming the worst.
11. End your negative patterns of thinking.
Let's face it: Sometimes we are what's making us miserable. We just can't stop thinking about how so-and-so wronged us, or how our life didn't turn out as we hoped. Negative thought processes — like worrying

, ruminating

, self-judgment

, and fearing rejection

— just keep us miserable and unable to move forward. When you find yourself thinking negatively, pause and refocus your thoughts

. In time, your brain will be able to do this more easily on its own.
article continues after advertisement

12. Find clarity.
How are you supposed to move your life forward when you don't even know what you feel or why you feel it? To become happier, try to gain clarity on your emotions

; find out what you're feeling and what caused those feelings

.
13. Live your values.
When you start to explore yourself and your values

, you may discover that you've known all along what would make you happy, but you're just not doing it. To be happier, get clear on your values

, so that you can live your life autonomously

, according to your own principles and values.
14. Pay attention to the good.
Sure, sometimes life is hard. But by paying attention to the good

, you can rise above it and be more resilient. When you find the good, savor the moment

, and bring it with you to maintain happiness even during hard times. Or try thinking about a time in the future when you'll feel better

.

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15. Use your imagination to create the life you seek.
Did you know that your brain has a difficult time differentiating between things that happen in your imagination and things that happen in real life? So when you imagine something — even happiness — your brain acts as if it's real. We can use imagination to help create happiness

out of thin air and enjoy our experiences more

.
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16. Stay mindful.
Sometimes we want to escape. The world seems dark and scary, but by practicing mindfulness

we experience more fully both the positive and the negative — we are more fully engaged in our lives.
17. Explore what happiness means to you.
We all define happiness in different ways. When you know what happiness means to you

, you'll have an easier time finding it. So explore happiness — what it means, what it looks like

, and what it feels like — to more easily create it.
18. Go after life.
How are you supposed to change your life by doing the same things you've always done? It's pretty tough. Instead, push yourself to overcome fear and approach life

with enthusiasm. Try "doing the opposite"

to see how it feels and to make your brain more flexible.
19. Speak up and be yourself.
When we let people walk all over us, we're unhappy. But when we advocate for our own needs assertively

and express ourselves

, we feel more in control of our lives. Learning how to express yourself

can help you overcome interpersonal challenges, which can make you unhappy.
20. Find your purpose.
We all want to feel like we made some sort of positive impact in this world, but sometimes we are uncertain of the type of impact we want to make. Explore exactly what gives you a sense of purpose

and how you want to pursue this purpose

to give your life a greater sense of meaning.
21. Build meaningful connections.
Did you know we enjoy just about everything more when we do it with others

? This is why one of the best things you can do for your happiness is to build meaningful relationships

and social connections. To strengthen these relationships, practice kindness and gratitude towards the people you care about

.
22. Get off the hedonic treadmill.
The "hedonic treadmill" refers to the tendency for us to return to our original happiness level

over time. To boost your baseline-level happiness

, you can try changing your physiology through nutrition and exercise. To maintain your happiness, you have to get out of your comfort zone

and keep adding variety

to your happiness plan

.
23. Hold yourself accountable.
We are more likely to do the things we say we're going to do if we schedule time in our calendars to do them

. We can also more easily stay on track if we get accountability from others

. So if you really want to be happier, don't let yourself get away with being unhappy.
In sum, you can be happier. It's just a matter of building the right "happiness skills."

If you need help putting this all together, check out my Happiness Program

at berkeleywellbeing.com

.

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Tchiki Davis, Ph.D., is a consultant, writer, and expert on well-being technology.
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